Archive for October, 2009

Despair vs. Hope

Friday, October 30th, 2009

October has been a busy month filled with speaking at retreats and conferences. Everywhere I’ve gone, the same thing has happened – people have told me about their personal struggles or heartaches. This month I’ve heard numerous stories of marriages breaking up for various reasons. I’ve met a couple of young widows whose husbands were killed recently in tragic accidents. I’ve spoken with women who have whispered secrets from their past – they’ve had abortions or suffered from rape or sexual abuse. Some are devastated by their kids’ involvement in drugs or alcohol. Others are worried sick about the influence an ex-spouse with questionable habits and character is having on their children.

I hear these stories and my heart nearly breaks. On many occasions, I’ve returned home and cried for them. I’ve asked God to come to their rescue, to bring healing to their hurting hearts, and restore their broken places.

Life can be harsh sometimes. The writer of Lamentations 3 describes it with vivid word pictures. “He has made me grind my teeth on gravel,” he writes. “He has rolled me in the dust. Peace has been stripped away, and I have forgotten what prosperity is. I cry out, ‘My splendor is gone! Everything I’d hoped for from the Lord is lost! The thought of my suffering and homelessness is bitter beyond words. I will never forget this awful time, as I grieve over my loss’” (vv. 16-20).

The writer pours out his feelings of hopelessness, but suddenly he changes his focus and reveals the secret for triumphing over despair…“Yet I still dare to hope when I remember this: The unfailing love of the Lord never ends! By his mercies we have been kept from complete destruction. Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each day. I say to myself, ‘The Lord is my inheritance; therefore, I will hope in him!’ The Lord is wonderfully good to those who wait for him and seek him. So it is good to wait quietly for salvation from the Lord” (vv. 24-26).

No matter how dire our circumstances appear or how God-forsaken we feel, we can hang onto this assurance: God still loves us. His faithfulness is great. His mercy tank is freshly-filled every morning. He’s good…no, He’s wonderfully good to those who wait for Him and seek His face.

The enemy of our souls desperately wants us to believe otherwise, but let’s not entertain his lies. Rather, let’s focus on the same truths that brought renewed hope to the author of Lamentations. Let’s dare to hope that those truths about God’s unfailing love are real, alive, and relevant to us today. Let’s speak words of life into our disappointments and hurts – “I acknowledge my pain and brokenness, but in the midst of it, I place my hope in the Lord.” And let’s seek God’s face by reading His Word, listening to worshipful music, and practicing His presence moment by moment. Having done these things, let’s wait with confident expectation for Him to restore our broken places.

Now it’s your turn. How do you overcome discouragement?

Totally Committed to What?

Wednesday, October 28th, 2009

Here’s a question for you: To what are you totally committed? Take a moment before answering; it’s an interesting exercise if you’ve never pondered this. Some women might say things such as…

  • I’m totally committed to helping my kids get through college debt-free.
  • I’m totally committed to losing 20 pounds before my next high school reunion
  • I’m totally committed to keeping my marriage intact.
  • I’m totally committed to helping my children learn how to say no to peer pressure.
  • I’m totally committed to upgrading my education so I can put some money towards retirement.
  • I’m totally committed to limiting my spending this Christmas season.

The list goes on and on, as varied as the women who read this blog. But there’s one answer I hope would rise to the top. It’s found in Titus 2:14 which says, “He (Jesus Christ) gave his life to free us from every kind of sin, to cleanse us, and to make us his very own people, totally committed to doing what is right.”

Regardless of our age, race, circumstances, or financial status, if we’re Christ’s followers, then we ought to commit totally to doing what’s right according to His Word. For instance, practicing self-control even when our kids act like a bunch of wild hyenas. We restrain ourselves when we feel like buying something we don’t need, especially if doing so means increasing our consumer debt. We refuse to gossip about the neighbor even though we know a juicy little tidbit about her. We return extra change when the grocery clerk makes a mistake. We turn off the TV when an inappropriate show comes on. We fulfill our commitments even though doing so means being inconvenienced. We say yes to God when He asks us to serve in a way that stretches us beyond our comfort zone. And on and on and on.

Can you imagine the difference in the world if every individual totally committed to doing what was right according to God’s Word? There’d be no need for divorce courts or child protective services or conflict mediators. Wars would be non-existent. Corrupt governments would cease. Honesty and humility would prevail. Even pollution wouldn’t be an issue because everyone would do what’s right in caring for the environment. The impact would span the globe and affect every area of life on earth.

Unfortunately, we don’t live in a perfect world. Nevertheless, we can make a difference where we live by following Paul’s instructions and totally committing to doing what’s right. Will you join me in doing so?

I’ve Been Sent To…

Monday, October 26th, 2009

It was a busy weekend. Besides speaking three times at a ladies’ conference in Red Deer, Alberta, I’ve had five meetings with long-time friends and individuals who ministered with International Messengers (IM) last summer, and two with pastors who have expressed an interest in future short-term ministry opportunities with IM. This evening my husband and I will speak at an informational meeting for anyone interested in participating with us next summer. Tomorrow morning we’ll pack our suitcases and drive to the next town to do it again.

Everywhere I go, someone inevitably asks, “How did you get started in this ministry of writing, speaking, and now taking short-term teams to Eastern Europe?” My answer is this: “It’s not something I sought. Rather, it’s God’s call on my life; it’s my divine assignment. ”

Yes, I have no doubt that God has called me to communicate His truth via the written and spoken word. He’s given me the task of encouraging others to live lives that honor Him. He’s asked me to spread the Good News of salvation and hope to those who are spiritually lost and in despair. The compulsion I feel to see this mission fulfilled is difficult to put into words. There’s an inner drive, an undeniable passion that burns within. It’s what gets me out of bed in the morning and gives purpose to my working hours. It’s what brings personal fulfillment and a deep, deep joy.

I’ve come to understand what the apostle Paul wrote in Titus 1:1-3 – “I have been sent to bring faith to those God has chosen and to teach them to know the truth that shows them how to live godly lives. This truth gives them the confidence of eternal life, which God promised them before the world began – and he cannot lie. And now at the right time he has revealed this Good News, and we announce it to everyone. It is by the command of God our Savior that I have been trusted to do this work for him.”

When I speak at women’s events, I often teach that God has a purpose for each person’s life. Primarily, He desires to have relationship with us, but there’s also a specific purpose unique to each individual. Mine is to communicate His truth to teach others how to live godly lives, to reveal the Good News to everyone possible. Yours may be similar, or it may be vastly different. Whatever it is, it’s of huge importance for it plays a role in God’s eternal story.

If you’d authored Titus 1:1, what would you have written after the introductory words I have been sent to….? Fill in the blank, and share your answer with the rest of us!

Armor for the Mind

Friday, October 23rd, 2009

It’s nearly 2 a.m. Friday morning as I write this. I’m babysitting at my son’s house because he took his wife to the ER a couple of hours ago. Poor thing – she’s as sick as she’s ever been with a high fever, body aches, and chills.

I must admit that I’m trying hard not to entertain nervous thoughts about the H1N1 virus. You see, this week the media announced that British Columbia is Canada’s hotspot for the bug. Frankly, I’ve not paid too much attention to the hype until now, chalking it up to the media’s penchant for causing panic. But as my daughter-in-law’s condition has worsened over the past three days, I’m having second thoughts. I’m also being forced to practice what I preach!

Psalm 91:4 is a good place to start with its reassurance that God’s promises are my armor and protection. When worrisome thoughts threaten to gallop away with my emotions, I can put the brakes on by calling to mind words about God’s sovereignty. I can recall promises of His goodness, of His power, and of His love. Best of all, I can focus on promises of His faithfulness – it begins afresh every day, says Lamentations 3:23. Imagine that! Each morning dawns with a fresh tank filled to the brim with God’s faithfulness. No matter what the day holds, the supply will be more than adequate to see me through.

I don’t know when my son and daughter-in-law will return from the ER, but I’m hoping it’s before their baby son wakes up to nurse. I don’t know how I’ll manage to get through tomorrow – I have to board a plane at 8:45 a.m. and head to Alberta to speak at a women’s conference that begins on Friday evening. And I don’t know how my kids will manage with two small children to care for when they’re exhausted from illness and spending most of the night at the hospital. Honestly, at this time of the day I don’t know much of anything even at the best of times. But this one thing I do know – God will see my kids through their situation, and He’ll meet me at my point of need, too.

Now it’s your turn. How has God’s Word proven to be your armor and protection when fearful thoughts have filled your mind?

Wednesday, October 21st, 2009

God’s ways are soooo not our natural ways. Just look at the contrast…

God: be content                           Self: strive for more

God: forgive                                  Self: get even

God: wait                                        Self: get it now

God: give up your  rights         Self: demand them

God: surrender                             Self: resist

The latter example popped off the page at me this morning as I read Jeremiah 38:19. King Hezekiah had asked Jeremiah to tell him what the future held for his city. When Jeremiah gave him the news – “surrender to the Babylonians and all will be well with you” – the king adamantly refused. What was his reply? “But I’m afraid to surrender” (38:19).

How classic is that? How many times have I felt God’s nudge to give or forgive or get involved in some way. Rather than obeying Him, I’ve cringed and rationalized and made excuses. Why? Bottom line – fear.

I’m afraid to surrender completely to God. I’m afraid of the what-ifs – What if He asks more of me than I want to give? What if things don’t turn out the way I wish? What if life takes an unwanted detour? And so I stand before the all-knowing, all-powerful, all-loving God and say, “Surrender to You? I don’t think so – that’s too scary. I’ll do life my way instead.”

My heart breaks at the thought of how I’ve affronted this One who sent His Son to die on my behalf. Each time I’ve refused to surrender to His commands, I’ve declared myself wiser than He. My attitude and actions have proven once again that my knowledge of Him lacks depth and intimacy.

Can you relate? Have you refused to obey God’s nudges? If so, ask Him to examine your heart and show you if fear is holding you captive. Then ask Him for the strength and courage to defy that fear and to place your trust in Him completely.

Let’s choose today to say yes to God. May the words I’m afraid to surrender not cross our lips.

Far More Awesome

Monday, October 19th, 2009

Awesome is a popular but somewhat under-rated word in today’s vocabulary. Here are a few examples…

  • Q: “How’s your latte?” A: “Mmmm…awesome!”
  • “Wow – I love the highlights in your hair. You look awesome!”
  • “Your kids are so awesome.”
  • “She’s an awesome teacher.”

Sound familiar? I’ll bet we use the word more times than we even realize in everyday conversation. What exactly does it mean? Well, the thesaurus lists several synonyms including majestic, magnificent, breathtaking, astonishing, terrifying, and intimidating. Haha – don’t get too excited, then, when someone says the highlights in your hair are awesome – are they breathtakingly beautiful or totally terrifying? And is an awesome teacher someone who loves kids and explains lessons well, or someone who’s incredibly intimidating?

Last weekend, at the Stillwood women’s retreat, we used awesome in the context of God’s character as we spoke and sang about His power, faithfulness, and love for us. Then this morning I read Psalm 89:6-8 which says, “The highest angelic powers stand in awe of God. He is far more awesome that those who surround his throne. O Lord God Almighty! Where is there anyone as mighty as you, Lord? Faithfulness is Your very character.”

When I put the synonyms into Scriptural context, the word takes on an exciting new meaning. God is not merely awesome – majestic, magnificent, breathtaking, astonishing, terrifying, and intimidating. Nope. He’s more than that. He’s far more awesome than even the angels who surround His throne, and I hear that they’re pretty incredible.

Let’s give God the credit and praise He’s due. Rather than waste energy entertaining doubt and fear, let’s choose to trust in this far more awesome God to protect and provide for us. Rather than puff ourselves up with pride, let’s fall on our faces in worship and adore this far more awesome God for who He is – the Lord God Almighty, the One who is majestic, magnificent, breathtaking, astonishing, terrifying, and intimidating. And let’s rest in the knowledge that this far more awesome God is faithful to those who love Him.

What words of praise would you like to offer for this far more awesome God?

A Prayer for Prodigals

Friday, October 16th, 2009

If you’re a parent of a prodigal child, know that you’re not alone. Josh McDowell and George Barna have conducted surveys that say 85 per cent of kids raised in Christian homes are leaving the church within a year of high school graduation. What’s with that?

There’s probably a long list of reasons. Perhaps the media’s influence on their minds is a major culprit. Secular education is another. I also have a hunch that many are turned-off by seeing a compromised faith lived out at home. (Did you know that the divorce rate in Christian families is now 53 per cent? That’s 3 per cent higher than in families that don’t profess faith in Jesus Christ). Whatever the reason for their wandering ways, we need to pray on their behalf. Here’s a Scripture-based prayer for our prodigals:

“Father, please give my child a heart that will recognize You as the Lord. Teach Your ways to him that he might live according to Your truth as opposed to the world’s counterfeit truth or his own emotions. Grant him purity of heart that he may honor You in all he says and does. In Jesus’ name, Amen.” (Jeremiah 24:7; Psalm 86:11 NLT)

Write this prayer out on a recipe card and post it where you’ll see it often. Carry it in your purse or glove compartment. It’s not a magic formula, but it’s a tool to equip you to know how to pray effectively for your precious child. Be encouraged today, my friend. God loves your son or daughter more than you can imagine. Pray, pray, and pray some more…and trust Him to answer.

If you’ve experienced the home-coming of your prodigal, please tell us your story. Your words could be a huge encouragement for those who are still waiting.

Walking in the Wilderness

Wednesday, October 14th, 2009

Time after time while speaking at women’s retreats and conferences, I hear stories that break my heart. Some women have been abandoned by their husbands while others are married to men addicted to pornography. Some are grieving the death of a child while others are grieving the inability to conceive. Some are afraid of an unknown future while others are afraid of facing their past. Many are on a wilderness walk – a desert of the soul – and wondering when it will end.

The word wilderness often conjures a negative image in our minds. We think of an uninhabitable place. A desert dotted with sagebrush, perhaps. A flat, dusty wasteland. The thought of finding life or refreshment there seems absurd. But Psalm 84:5-7 suggests we think again:

“Happy are those who are strong in the Lord, who set their minds on a pilgrimage to Jerusalem. When they walk through the Valley of Weeping, it will become a place of refreshing springs, where pools of blessing collect after the rains! They will continue to grow stronger, and each of them will appear before God in Jerusalem.”

What are these verses saying? They’re telling us that the road to a more intimate walk with God often leads through a place of struggles and tears. The journey is difficult and not one we’d choose for ourselves, but in the midst of the wilderness wasteland, we find refreshment. Our strength is renewed as we keep our eyes focused on Jesus. Our hearts are encouraged when we remember that He is with us. And our hope is restored when we discover blessings – evidences of His love for us – along the way.

Are you walking in a wilderness of the soul? If so, remember that God knows where you are. His desire is that your wandering will spur growth in your life, and that it will lead you to a more intimate walk with Him. That’s my desire for you, too, my friend.

Here’s a question for you: What blessings have you discovered while walking in the wilderness?

Aha Moments

Monday, October 12th, 2009

Happy Thanksgiving to my Canadian friends!

This blog entry is the first one I taught on 100 Huntley Street’s “Truth to Go.” You can view it online at www.crossroadstv.ca. Click on “Watch Program” and go to the one that aired on Monday, October 5.

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Life doesn’t always turn out the way we hope or plan. Sometimes our circumstances don’t make sense, and we wonder if God really knows what He’s doing.

I wonder if that’s how Joseph felt at times. His story, found in Genesis, says he was only 17 years old when his jealous older brothers sold him into slavery. Potiphar, a member of Pharaoh’s staff, bought him and put him in charge of his household affairs. Trouble was, Potiphar’s wife wanted an affair of her own – with Joseph. He rejected her advances, she accused him of rape, and he was thrown into prison.

The jail cell became Joseph’s classroom where he majored in a 13-year-long course called “Character Development.” Psalm 105:18 and 19 say, “There in prison, they bruised his feet with fetters and placed his neck in an iron collar. Until the time came to fulfill his word, the Lord tested Joseph’s character.”

Joseph was 30 years old when he was finally released and suddenly appointed second-in-command in Egypt – a prominent, powerful position. Just as he’d predicted, seven years of prosperity gave way to famine. One day his brothers came in search of food for their families. Scripture tells us that Joseph recognized them, but they didn’t know him. He waited until they returned a second time before he revealed his identity.

Imagine the emotion of that moment! And imagine Joseph’s expression when suddenly his circumstances over the past 20 years made sense:

“You sold me into slavery,” Joseph told his brothers, “but don’t be angry with yourselves that you did this to me, for God did it. He sent me here ahead of you to preserve your lives. Yes, it was God who sent me here, not you!”

My husband and I lived in Nepal in the 80s. He was a civil engineer working on a hydro-electric project, and I taught basic health care. We lived in a mud and rock hut with a thatch roof, no electricity, no running water, and no indoor plumbing. I wrestled with culture shock, language learning, and loneliness. Two years passed before I began settling into village life. That’s when we committed our lives to ministry there. One week after our interview with a career mission agency, our second child was born with major medical issues. We had to return to North America within days. Then I encountered reverse culture shock.

Over the years, I often wondered what role that experience played in our lives. In 2007, we were asked to launch International Messengers Canada. One of our tasks is to provide member care for our missionaries. I shared my testimony with our women at the first IM conference we attended, and as I concluded, these words came from my mouth, “When you struggle with language learning, I can empathize. When you struggle with loneliness, I understand. When you struggle with reverse culture shock, I get it!” Suddenly everything made sense. God had used our time in Nepal to prepare us for a ministry that would come 25 years later.

Life doesn’t always turn out the way we plan or hope. Sometimes our circumstances are difficult to understand. But God knows what He’s doing. Our role is to trust His wisdom and His ways.

One day – if not here, then in heaven – everything will make sense. We’ll see God’s hand in our circumstances. We’ll be amazed, humbled, and awestruck. But until then, let’s allow Him to be God, to fulfill His plan His way and in His time even when we don’t understand.

Thankful?!

Friday, October 9th, 2009

Hey, guess what? This month I’m the featured “Truth to Go” teacher on 100 Huntley Street. Check out  www.crossroadstv.ca for scheduled listings or to watch these devotional segments online (click on “”Watch the Program”).

Here’s the second segment…..

The word “agenda” means: a list or plan of things to be done or accomplished. That’s what I had – an agenda. And when it fell apart, I felt anything but thankful!

It began the day my eldest daughter and I left home to take her to college nearly a thousand miles away. I’d looked forward to having fun with her on this trip: We’d talk and listen to our favorite CDs. Stay overnight at a hotel with a hot tub. Spend two days visiting Grandma and Grandpa, and finally arrive at the college on registration day. I’d also looked forward to this trip as a welcome break at the end of a very busy summer.

But nothing went as planned. Our car’s transmission blew before we even left town. We limped to a fix-it shop where the mechanic said, “The car will be ready in three days.” 

Three days? So much for a leisurely trip and quality time. I managed to remain positive in public, but I poured out my heart to the Lord in private.

You knew I wanted to spend relaxed time with my daughter enroute to college—is that too much to ask? Besides, I’m tired. I need a rest. Is that a selfish request? I clutched my plans like a little kid squeezing a favorite toy, and cried, “Mine!”

I’ll admit it. I let my disappointment dictate my response—I threw a pity party, and the only guest was me. That’s when God began a fix-it job in my heart. “In everything give thanks,” He gently reminded me.

Giving thanks for losing that opportunity and for a blown transmission was the last thing on my agenda. I tried to ignore Him, but the Holy Spirit wouldn’t quit. “No matter what happens, always be thankful, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus,” He said.

I had a choice. I could either follow my feelings, or follow God’s instructions for living. I chose the latter. It wasn’t easy – I had to ask Him to help me see past my disappointment and express gratitude even though I didn’t feel like it. He answered, and peace filled my heart.

No doubt you’ve experienced situations that left you disappointed, anxious, or even angry. Perhaps your job required moving to a different city but your house didn’t sell before you had to leave, and your finances were stretched tight as a result. Maybe you had high hopes for your kids, but they chose a different path. Perhaps your best attempts at mending a broken relationship didn’t work. 

No matter what happens, we’re to give thanks. At times that hardly seems possible, but it is. The key is found in Ephesians 5:18-20. These verses say, “Let the Holy Spirit fill and control you. Then you will sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs among yourselves, making music to the Lord in your hearts. And you will always give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Giving thanks no matter what is a command, not an option. And God, in His faithfulness, gives us everything we need to do it. When we let the Holy Spirit, rather than our emotions, control us, we’re able to do what He says, and then we reap the benefits.

The next time your agenda changes unexpectedly, remember….“No matter what happens, always be thankful, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.”