Archive for July, 2012

‘I’m Okay, You’re Okay’ is Not Okay

Friday, July 27th, 2012

Today’s guest post is written by Kathi Macias. Kathy is a multi-award-winning author of 40 books, including 2011 Golden Scrolls Novel of the Year and Carol Award finalist, Red Ink. A popular Bible teacher and speaker, Kathi lives in Southern California with her husband, Al.

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“Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more” (John 8:11, NKJV).

The story of how Jesus forgave the woman caught in adultery is an all-time favorite for many of us. We love that the Savior was merciful and compassionate, even turning the spotlight from the woman to her self-righteous accusers. But to focus on the Lord’s lack of condemnation to the exclusion of His admonition to “sin no more” is to misrepresent the truth and power of His words.

A few decades ago I came across a popular book titled I’m Okay, You’re Okay, and it struck a chord of concern in me because the book was selling like crazy and readers were extolling the virtues of its anything-goes message. Some years later I had the privilege of working on Josh McDowell’s manuscript for his book The New Tolerance, in which he cautioned the Church not to get caught up in the world’s ever-increasing love affair with that “I’m okay, you’re okay” type of mantra. Josh rightly predicted that our society was well on its way to making tolerance the number-one virtue and intolerance the gravest sin. We now live in that culture, where the most oft-quoted (and misused) verse in the Bible is “Judge not, that you be not judged” (Matthew 7:1, NKJV). Though it is true we are not to judge others based on our own opinions or personal values, neither are we to toss out the absolutes of God’s Word in fear of being considered intolerant.

The Scriptures are clear that murder, stealing, lying, adultery, and other behaviors contrary to the character of Christ are absolutely wrong. Period. Not because we say so but because God says so. To proclaim His Word is not judging; it is simply believing that what He says is True because, after all, He is Truth, and God cannot contradict His own nature and tell a lie.

The Scriptures also instruct us to “[speak] the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15, NKJV). Certainly we need to proclaim God’s truth from a heart of love, desiring to see people saved and healed and set free, for truth without love causes terrible damage to the hearers. However, love without truth becomes license and allows people to remain in their sin and continue in their separation from God.

And that is why Jesus so clearly said to the woman caught in adultery, “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.” He assured her that she did not have to live under condemnation, but He also admonished her to change her ways. “Sin no more,” He warned her, for if she truly understood His message and received His forgiveness, her life would be marked by repentance, an “about-face” from her previous walk away from God to one heading straight for His heart, a life epitomized by a desire to please her Lord and reject a life of sin.

By all means may we refrain from imposing our opinions and personal values on others, but may we also love enough to speak the truth of God’s Word so others can turn from sin and enter into eternal life.

Guest Post — Hurtful Names, Hope-filled Names

Friday, July 20th, 2012

Today’s post is by Canadian writer Janet Sketchley.

Sticks and stones can break our bones, and name-calling and negative labels hurt us, too. Australian novelist Paula Vince has an excellent post about this: To get rid of the reproach of Egypt.

In crawling out from under hurtful labels, I wanted to step into my identity as one who is shepherded by the Lord Jesus Christ, secure in His love, provision and care. I figured that I didn’t need a label of any sort other than the new name He will give me at the end. And then I heard the words, “You are a worshipper.” When I heard them, they seemed to fit me. They described what I want to grow into.

People have called me plenty of good things since my schooldays, but their words never stuck. Perhaps not being able to receive compliments is due to my own insecurity. Perhaps it’s due to self knowledge—like every other person on the planet, I know the darkness that lives in me with the light.

“You are kind.” No, I’m not kind, but God is growing kindness in me.

“You are honest.” No, I’m not honest, but God is growing honesty in me.

“You are a worshipper.” Well, I’m not yet, not completely. Not like I want to be someday. But I can receive that as an affirmation, an encouragement and perhaps a signpost. God is growing worship in me.

How about you? The next time someone identifies good in you, instead of thinking how far short you fall from perfection in that area, can you recognize a spark of the good? Instead of denial and defeat, can you speak hope for what God is growing?

Interview on “100 Huntley Street”

Monday, July 16th, 2012

In mid-June I flew to Toronto for an interview on “100 Huntley Street.” The purpose was to feature Peaceful Moments to Begin Your Day: Devotions for Busy Women and talk about spiritual lessons as they apply to everyday life. Moira Brown and I had a great time sharing lessons we’ve learned over time, some easier than others. We specifically discussed waiting on the Lord and learning to pray.

Moira Brown featuring "Peaceful Moments to Begin Your Day: Devotions for Busy Women"

When we pray, it’s easy to fall into patterns such as “Lord, bless so-and-so and keep him safe. Amen.” While there’s nothing inherently wrong with a prayer like that, I believe we can pray more effectively when we go a step further and incorporate God’s word (being careful not to pull anything from its correct context).

When my kids were much younger, I was invited to attend a moms’ prayer group. That’s where I learned to pray Scripture, and doing so turned my prayer life upside down. Years later I developed a workshop called “Power-Packed Prayers” and a resource called “Praying Scripture Head to Toe.” Here’s the resource for your use. And here’s the interview with Moira Brown for your enjoyment.

If you have a moment, I’d love to hear what your favourite Scripture verse is and how you’ve incorporated it in your prayer life.

With love from Berlin,

Grace

A Lesson About Prayer Learned at Camp

Saturday, July 14th, 2012

As I write this, I’m riding in the backseat of a nine-passenger van between Timisoara (Romania) and Budapest (Hungary). Fields of corn, wheat, and sunflowers border the road. A cloudless sky and a gentle breeze go with us.

Loading the van to leave camp

This is my view from the back of our van to and from Timisoara!

Music fills the van. One song, “What a Friend We Have in Jesus,” brings tears to my eyes. I’ve known these lyrics for my lifetime, but the depth of their meaning has become clear to me only in the recent past. I’m especially comforted by knowing Christ invites us to bring every concern to Him in prayer.

If I were to sum up what I’ve learned on this year’s ministry trip so far, it would be to get more serious about prayer. Several weeks ago, I asked God to teach me to pray more effectively, and He’s been bringing mini-lessons to me ever since.

The most recent mini-lesson came on the last day of our camp. Several kids stood to share a few words about what they’ve been learning. One young man—a special fellow who has known more hardship in 25 years than most of us could imagine in a lifetime—said, “I pray every night with my friend.” His friend sat a few feet away. He, too, has known untold hardship. In fact, if I had the freedom to describe their experiences to you online, I guarantee you would find them beyond comprehension.

This young man’s words taught me more about prayer than listening to sermons or reading books about it. They challenged me to never settle for excuses about being too busy to engage in conversation with God. They encouraged me to pray in simple, childlike faith expecting God to fulfill His promises. And they motivated me to be more intentional.

I’ve been a long-time proponent of living in the spirit of prayer, and I’ll continue to be so. But I’m going home determined to set more substantial time aside daily for prayer—earnest prayer, not just asking for God to bless a particular person and keep him safe.

What a friend we have in Jesus, and what a privilege to carry all our concerns to Him in prayer. I’m so thankful for this truth, for the reminder to apply it, and for my special Romanian friends who did the reminding.

BTW–here’s a free resource loaded with Scripture-based prayers. Enjoy!

Guest Post — “Don’t Fuss About the Donkeys”

Friday, July 13th, 2012

Today’s post is by Canadian writer Mary Waind. Check out her blog at marywaindbeechcrofttales.blogspot.ca/

Have you ever pursued a task that ended up feeling like a complete waste of time?

Saul may have felt that way. In I Samuel 9, his father sent him to find their family’s lost donkeys. He and a servant searched for days and traveled many miles without success.

In Saul’s mind, the only reason for their journey was to find the runaway animals. Since their task proved fruitless, he wanted to give up.

“Let’s go home,” said Saul.

“Wait! I have an idea,” said the servant. “Let’s seek the help of a prophet who lives in this town.”  It “just so happened” that the prophet was working nearby and their paths crossed his a few minutes later.

Was it a coincidence that the men couldn’t find the donkeys? Was it a coincidence that they ended up in the prophet’s town or that the prophet was working nearby that day? No. Saul and the servant didn’t accomplish their intended task, but they landed exactly where they were supposed to be at the exact time.

When Saul’s supposed mission failed, he may have felt as though he wasted a lot of time. In God’s eyes, however, everything was just as it was supposed to be. God had been at work behind-the-scenes, bringing Saul and the prophet together so that Saul could be anointed as the next king.

Sometimes we have supposed missions of our own. Perhaps we drive to a store to buy a favourite product that’s on sale. We arrive at the store only to learn that the sale ended the day prior, or the product is sold out. We feel as though we’ve wasted time, right? But God might have had a different mission in mind for us. It’s possible that He knew someone at the store received bad news that morning, and they needed a hug or a kind word from us.

Next time you find yourself on a wild goose—or donkey—chase, remember Saul’s experience filled with divine coincidences. And, by the way, the donkeys were already found. God had that detail under control, too.

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Scenes from Romania

Thursday, July 12th, 2012

Perhaps you’ll enjoy pics of things I’ve seen this week in Romania. I’ll post more in a couple of days.

A study in contrast from the red Ferrari I saw in a mall parking lot in Timisoara.

Does anyone know what type of flower this is? It grows on a bush.

These gals were sitting by the road so I stopped to talk with them. They loved the attention and gave lots of kisses and hugs.

Stairway to nowhere.

This is the village where we held our camp for teens and young adults. Notice the modern technology on the hilltops--a strange sight considering this village still uses a shared outdoor water tap for fresh drinking water.

Birthday Blessings Extraordinaire

Wednesday, July 11th, 2012

Our camp ended on Monday morning. We kissed and hugged our special kids (many times) and then waved goodbye as two vehicles drove them away. We spent the next hour or so collecting trash from the rooms, picking up water balloon remnants, putting furniture back into the correct place, etc before migrating to our air-conditioned rooms for respite from the heat.

A couple of hours later, we felt re-energized enough to stroll through the village. This led to an extraordinary birthday blessing.

In 2010, on a stroll through the same village, I met a senior lady sitting on a bench outside her home. I admired her handiwork, and she talked about her life. Without a translator, I could understand only a few words, but they were enough to tell me she’d had a hard life.

Anna in 2010

In 2011, I took a couple small gifts for her and prayed that I’d see her again. God answered! On the last day of camp, our team walked through the village and, lo and behold, there she sat on the same bench. I wasn’t sure whether or not she remembered me, so I pulled out my laptop and showed her the picture from the year prior. She grinned a toothless grin and proceeded to tell me about her life again.

Anna looks at the 2010 photo on Grace's laptop.

This year, when we rounded the corner leading to her house, I saw only an empty bench. I feared that she’d died since last summer, but suddenly she appeared in her doorway! She struggled up a short, rough walkway to her bench and sat down. I approached her, greeted her in Romanian, and a huge smile crossed her face. “I know you,” she said. “Last year you showed me a picture of you and me together on this bench.” Then she pulled my face close to hers and kissed me over and over.

Anna said, "I know you!"

Again, she launched into a monologue about her life. Tears streamed down her face as she told of hardships she’d endured as a child. She’s 65 now, and her health is failing. She has cataracts, so doing her handiwork is no longer possible.

“What’s your name?” I asked when she stopped to take a breath.

“Anna,” she replied.

“That’s my granddaughter’s name,” I said.

Anna smiled again. “May God bless her very, very much,” she said. She nodded eagerly when I asked permission to pray for her.  I asked God to reveal His love and care for her in a special way. Again, tears streamed down her face as she expressed thanks.

Then I pulled out two shawls my mother had sent along to give to “a Romanian granny who needs something warm for winter.” These pictures say it all.

Anna receives a shawl.

"Thank you, thank you!"

Anna is only 11 years older than me. It’s hard to fathom the hardships that have aged her. Meeting her not once, not twice, but three times is no coincidence. What do I do with this? How should I respond? I believe God’s asking me to pray for her, and so I will. I’ll pray that He’ll protect her, heal her inner wounds, provide for her physical needs, and draw her into a sweet, intimate relationship with Himself. I’m also going to pray for the opportunity to meet her again in 2013.

Meeting Anna, praying for her, and blessing her with gifts to meet her practical needs was a birthday blessing extraordinaire!

100 Huntley Street Interview — Recommended Resource

Tuesday, July 10th, 2012

Edit: the resource “Praying Scripture Head To Toe” has been posted here.

Did you watch my interview on “100 Huntley Street” on July 10th?

During that interview, Moira Brown and I talked about the importance of praying Scripture. I mentioned a free downloadable resource called “Praying Scripture Head to Toe” on my website.

I left for Romania on July 2 assuming the PDF would be loaded onto my website before the interview aired, but I’ve just learned that didn’t happen. Please accept my sincere apologies. I hope it will be loaded within a day or two, but in the meantime, please leave me a note on my contact page and I’ll email it to you. Also, feel free to download this PDF with Scripture prayers designed to conquer fear!

Thanks for your patience!

Blessings,
Grace

Edit: the resource “Praying Scripture Head To Toe” has been posted here.

Happy Birthday to Me!

Monday, July 9th, 2012

Guess what? Today’s my birthday! I’m one year closer to being able to order from a senior’s menu! Whoopeee!

Would you do me a fun favour? Take a special someone — a spouse, elderly parent or grandparent, your kids, your pastor’s wife, your sister, whomever you wish — and enjoy an ice cream treat today (unless you’re allergic to dairy products!). Savor the moment with that person, tell them that you love him/her, and make a special memory, okay? Life’s too short not to enjoy those you love.

Take a moment to tell me what you did, okay? I’d love to hear your response. You can comment on this blog.

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What’s Forgiveness, Anyway?

Friday, July 6th, 2012

Have you ever struggled with forgiving someone who’s hurt you? I have.

I believe forgiveness is difficult sometimes because we have misperceptions about what it is and what it isn’t. Hopefully this article–written for Extant Magazine–will help clear up misunderstandings.

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