Posts Tagged ‘alcoholism’

Another Way to Find Peace

Friday, December 10th, 2010

Some people’s lives look ‘way too much like soap operas. Marriage breakdowns, family feuds, alcoholism, abuse, and crime cause major heartache and devastation for everyone involved. You know what the sad part is? This pain can often be avoided.

The secret’s found in Psalm 119:165—“Those who love your instructions have great peace and do not stumble.” It couldn’t be simpler. If you want inner peace, then do life God’s way. Doing so doesn’t guarantee a problem-free existence, but it does enable us to sidestep landmines capable of destroying our souls.

How does loving God’s instructions give us peace? Here are a few thoughts:

  • Being faithful in marriage spares us the guilt and grief that cheating brings.
  • Forgiving our offenders helps us avoid the danger of deep-rooted anger.
  • Giving thanks in everything helps us sidestep bitterness and discontent.
  • Treating others as though they were more important than ourselves makes others feel valued and loved, which enhances interpersonal relationships.
  • Refusing to gossip makes it impossible for our words to return to bite us.

 See how easily accessible peace is when we do life as God designed? This list could go on and on. What other ideas do you have?

Home Again

Friday, August 6th, 2010

Having no internet access for nearly two weeks made it impossible for me to journal about our Poland family camp experience in real-life time. Now that I’m home again, I’ll blog for a few days about our experience in retrospect.

Perhaps the element that strikes me most is the peoples’ openness toward spiritual things. One woman said outright that she was seeking God and came to the camp hoping to find Him there. One man said he’d never been in such a group of people who prayed directly to God – he’d always communicated to God via a priest. These comments and others proved that spiritual hunger and interest is very much alive in Eastern Europe. So is the desire to learn how to raise kids and how to do marriage well.

Gene and I taught four workshops about marriage. Because of the days’ busy schedules, our sessions began at 9:45 PM. Yes, you read that correctly. It should have been bedtime, but that wasn’t the case for the 30 individuals and couples who showed up for the hour-long classes. I was thrilled to see so many attend. Many of the young adult singles (most of whom do not have godly role models) commented that our messages and personal example gave them hope for a God-centered marriage someday. PTL!

This year our team also offered workshops about parenting and about how to cope when a loved one suffers from alcoholism. These, too, were well attended. Our prayer is that these wonderful Polish people will have discovered new and practical strategies to help them face the challenges of everyday life. And our praise is that God is so big that He can use the likes of those of us on the team to accomplish anything of eternal value.

Ukraine Musings

Wednesday, March 31st, 2010

 We arrived home last evening and jet lag has hit me like a ton of bricks today. I guess that’s part of my occupational hazard! Before I shut ‘er down for the day, I’ll share a few musings about my Ukraine experience.

* The Odessa neighborhood in which we stayed reminded me of areas of India that I’ve visited. Narrow, broken roads made driving a challenge. 

the street outside our accommodation

 Stray, barking dogs interrupted our sleep at night. Steel gates and high fences protected homes from unwelcome visitors. Downtown Odessa was a different story – beautiful buildings with ornate design and carvings lined cobblestone streets. People sat on park benches and meandered through a square where vendors sold their touristy wares. 

tourist wares in downtown Odessa

 

* I asked one of our translators about the average monthly wage. She said it’s equivalent to $200. A couple might spend approximately $120/month on food and $75 on bus fare. Do the math. For this reason, it’s imperative that both husband and wife work. And most young marrieds live with their parents because they can’t afford to rent a flat.

* There is an 85% alcoholism rate among men. Is it any wonder when vodka costs the same as a bottle of drinking water (many people drink bottled water for health reasons)?

* Small city buses transport people wherever they need to go. On one of our daily jaunts, I realized that passengers rarely spoke to each other. If they did, it was in hushed tones. No one made eye contact with us, let alone smile. This lack of trust and congeniality is probably left from Communist days when people didn’t wish to draw attention to themselves lest they were singled out and persecuted or betrayed.

* Guards stood at the doors of modern grocery stores and asked to see our receipts when we exited. Someone explained that one store, in existence for only six years, had posted a security guard on each aisle when it opened. That was necessary to prevent people from stealing products off shelves – the temptation was too great for them to resist after not having access to material goods for most of their lives. BTW, this store sold more than groceries and dry goods. It also sold rifles and handguns.

* One of our national missionaries, a pastor, became a father two weeks ago. Interestingly, he was not able to see his baby until she was six days old. He was allowed to visit his wife but not when the baby was present. This was due to health care concerns and the fear of quick and unstoppable spread of contagious diseases.

* A governing body or person in the city government decides when to turn the heat on and off in buildings via a main switch. It will likely be turned off in April, so hopefully the weather will warm up soon. Concrete apartments can get very chilly! Unless an apartment has an electric water heater, showers will be cold until the heat is turned on next November.

* Ukraine’s history bears a lot of pain. For instance, between 7 and 10 million people died of starvation in the early 1930s while storehouses filled with grain sat nearby.

Our time in Odessa gave me new insights into the immense physical and spiritual needs of this place. It gave me a deep appreciation for the missionaries working there. And it created within me a desire to return and encourage them, and to partner with them in the future as God leads.

My time there also gave me a surprise personal link to the Ukraine. My whole life, I’ve known that my father was born in Russia but didn’t know what region. Last Friday, I discovered his birthplace was in present-day Ukraine, directly above the Romania/Moldova border.

I pray that God will shine His glorious light into the Ukraine. As Easter approaches, I pray that His Holy Spirit will lead the people into understanding that He doesn’t desire their religious rituals. Rather, He longs for relationship with them.

Knowing Christ and His transforming power will set individuals free from alcoholism and the dysfunction that accompanies it. Knowing Christ will give them freedom from mistrust and fear. Knowing Christ will heal them from a painful past and give hope for the future. As individuals are changed inwardly, so society will follow. Will you join me in this prayer?

On Friday I’ll post a few photos of sights around Odessa.

Next Stop — Peronin

Wednesday, March 17th, 2010

Dawn breaks as we clickety-clack from Gorzow to Warsaw. Our train slows to a stop in a station labeled “Krzyz.” The engine’s rumble competes with a voice over a loudspeaker saying something I can’t understand. Hopefully the announcement isn’t something like, “There’s been a last-minute schedule change. All passengers bound for Warsaw must disembark and wait for the next train.”

We got an early start today. Czarek fetched us at 4:00 A.M. and delivered us to the Gorzow station for our trip. Ice glazed the city sidewalks and roads, courtesy of the multiple-personality weather pattern this week. Frigid temperatures don’t slow people here. The majority don’t own cars, so they either walk to work or catch a bus or tram. This morning I saw two motorcyclists brave the road conditions and sub-zero weather. Now that’s dedication!

Our time in Gorzow was well spent, it seems. We taught workshops for 10 hours on Saturday and Sunday, and two more on Monday. I particularly enjoyed the last group. Seven people showed up. They entered the church 

Gorzow Baptist church, pastors and families, Gene

 carrying the smell of cigarette smoke and a lot of emotional baggage. They came only because their social workers told them they must, and they looked like scared rabbits. But their wary expression didn’t last long; a smile and a handshake warm the heart in any language.

These men and women struggle with life. Alcoholism and abuse taint their past and strip their present of hope. Parenting skills lack and dysfunction rules. One couple, for example, grandparent a 12-year-old boy who raped an 8-year-old girl last summer. That’s only one example of the needs represented by these people to whom Czarek and Ewa minister. What a joy it was to weave in the message of God’s unconditional love as revealed in the story of the prodigal son. They listened intently. One woman smiled and nodded.

Teaching these parenting workshops in Gorzow has served three purposes:

  • We’ve shared Biblical truths to a secular audience, showing how God’s Word is relevant to everyday life and whetting appetites to know more.
  • We’ve built bridges between our coworkers and their community’s social services department. This will open more doors for future ministry among university students training for social work and among families and individuals whose lives border on disaster.
  • We’ve raised awareness of July’s evangelistic family camp. Several individuals eagerly took brochures. Our prayer is that they will come (fear of the unknown is often a deterrent) and respond to the Gospel. Many times, attendees say camp is the only place they feel unconditionally loved and accepted.

And now we’re on to the next stop – Peronin. Our annual staff conference takes place here this weekend. Approximately 140 missionaries from Romania, Hungary, Slovakia, Poland, the Ukraine, and the Czech Republic will come seeking rest, solid Bible teaching, and fellowship with others of like mind. But first, married couples who wish to do so will participate in a FamilyLife marriage conference from Wednesday thru Friday.

Marriage can be challenging in itself. Add the pressures of career ministry and cross-cultural living, and the joy between husband and wife can quickly drain dry. And so, IM wants to encourage its married couples to focus on their relationships and keep their love alive. To do so, Gene and I will co-teach the workshops with Neal and June Black – he’s Canada’s acting director for FamilyLife (Power to Change). They’re also longtime personal friends and members of our personal support team. Sharing this ministry opportunity with them will be great fun.

So…leg #2 – here we come!