Posts Tagged ‘encouragement’

I Told You So

Wednesday, July 15th, 2009

Have you ever said, or felt like saying, “I told you so”? Paul did. He’d been taken prisoner and was being transported by ship to Italy when lousy weather blew in (Acts 27:1-20). Knowing that the fall season made weather dangerous for long voyages, he expressed his concerns to the ship’s officers: “Sirs,” he said, “I believe there is trouble ahead if we go on – shipwreck, loss of cargo, injuries, and danger to our lives.” But the officer in charge listened more to the ship’s captain and the owner than to Paul” (vv.10,11).

What happened? Paul’s predictions came true. The scenario turned nightmarish. “The next day, as gale-force winds continued to batter the ship, the crew began throwing the cargo overboard. The following day they even threw out the ship’s equipment and anything else they could lay their hands on. The terrible storm raged unabated for many days, blotting out the sun and the stars, until at last all hope was gone” (vv. 18-20).

That’s when Paul said, “I told you so. If you’d listened to me, you would have avoided this loss and these injuries.” If I’d been in his place, my words would probably have been tinged with anger. To the listener, they might have sounded more like, “You’re a bunch of idiots. I was right and you know it. Now look at what’s happened!”

Paul may have felt a little angry, too, but he didn’t let it control his response. Instead, he spoke words of encouragement. How could he do this to the very people who’d refused to take his counsel and landed him in this mess? I believe it was because he knew God, understood His sovereignty, and understood that He was responsible for him.

Look at Paul’s words: “Last night an angel of the God to whom I belong and whom I serve stood beside me, and he said, ‘Don’t be afraid…’” (v.23). When our circumstances turn sour, we often forget that God is sovereign. And when other people are involved in making those circumstances miserable against our better judgment, it’s easy to feel annoyed or angry.

If we find ourselves in situations where we’re tempted and even justified to say, “I told you so,” let’s remember that God is sovereign. We belong to Him, and He’s responsible for us. If He allows others to ignore our counsel, as wise as it seems to us, then we need to trust Him and His  ways.

Be an Encourager

Monday, June 8th, 2009

The drama in David’s life continues when his son Absalom decides to overthrow him. (Perhaps some counseling in conflict resolution might have prevented this mess). At any rate, David and his followers are headin’ out of town to escape Absalom and his henchmen. It was an emotional time – 2 Samuel 15:30 says the king and his followers have covered their heads and bared their feet to signify mourning, and they’re weeping as they climb the Mount of Olives. They reach the summit, physically exhausted and emotionally spent. And in the darkness of that moment comes a kiss from heaven…

“David was just past the top of the hill when Ziba, the servant of Mephibosheth, caught up with him. He was leading two donkeys loaded with two hundred loaves of bread, one hundred clusters of raisins, one hundred bunches of summer fruit, and a skin of wine. ‘What are these for?’ the king asked Ziba. And Ziba replied, ‘The donkeys are for your people to ride on, and the bread and summer fruit are for the young men to eat. The wine is to be taken with you into the wilderness for those who become faint’” (2 Sam. 16:1,2).

Ziba – what a model of encouragement! He’s obviously tuned in to people’s needs and how to meet them in practical ways. The donkeys are for those who grow too tired to walk. The bread and summer fruit are for the young men, probably because they need strength for battle. The wine is to revive those who grow faint in the wilderness. And the raisins…well, those seem to be up for grabs. His thoughtful gesture likely brings huge encouragement to David and his followers, a reminder that they haven’t been forgotten. Someone cares about them in the midst of their despair.

As believers, we’re called to follow Ziba’s example. We’re surrounded by situations that provide opportunities to practice encouragement. Here are a few examples:

  • A neighbor, friend, or family member loses his job and financial resources run tight. We can help by buying groceries or gas.
  • Someone we know loses a loved one. We can encourage through practical acts of kindness such as a simple phone call to express condolences, providing housecleaning, supplying food, sending a card.
  • Someone we know has to move and needs help packing. We can encourage by providing that help.

The list of needs is endless…

  • A single mom needs help with yard work or with fixing her car.
  • A senior sits alone in the nursing home, staring out the window day after day.
  • Someone from your church family is hospitalized.
  • A woman would love to attend her church’s ladies’ retreat and would greatly benefit from it, but she simply can’t afford it.

No matter where we live or what our lot in life is, we can be encouragers. Let’s ask God to open our eyes to the needs of those around us and to give us willing hearts to bless them in practical ways as Ziba did with David and his followers.

Watch our Words!

Friday, March 27th, 2009

Luke 6:45 says, “Whatever is in your heart determines what you say.” Ouch! This fits in well with yesterday’s travel blog. I admitted feeling stressed to the max when trying to make our connection and spilling the words to my husband in a not-so-respectful way: “Just get on the stinkin’ train!”

You may be wondering whether or not I considered praying about making that connection. I did pray, but for whatever reason, I thought worry might help our situation. My heart was filled with stress and fear, and my words reflected it.

Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation? Ever allowed your thought life to run amuck with critical thoughts about someone, with unthankful thoughts about your lot in life, with fearful thoughts about your future, your finances, your spouse or kids? Ever allowed those thoughts to influence your tongue?

Our words are to bring encouragement to others, to build up, to bring hope. In order for that to happen, our hearts must be filled with thoughts that naturally breed such words. The finger’s pointing at me for starters!