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Misperceptions of Other People

Friday, January 29th, 2010

Have you ever had a wrong perception of someone? I have. A couple of years ago while speaking at a woman’s event in Eastern Europe, I met an elderly woman who struck me as being aloof. My impression wasn’t favorable, and to my fault, I made no effort to get to know her.

Halfway through the weekend, one of the attendees asked me to join her and the senior lady for tea. I obliged. To my amazement, the elderly lady opened up and began sharing stories from her past. She’d survived years in a concentration camp! She told of hiding pages of the Bible in the barracks where she lived as a teenager, and of coming to know Christ as her Savior in that prison.

I listened, captured by her clarity and depth, and sorry for the way I’d misjudged her. My perception was completely wrong, based on nothing more than an initial impression.

Joseph’s brothers were guilty of doing something similar. When their father died, they expected the worst from Joseph. Genesis 50 says they became fearful: “Now Joseph will show his anger and pay us back for all the wrong we did to him,” they said (v. 15).

In reality, Joseph had shown only kindness to them and their families. He’d provided food and resettled them in a place of abundance. He’d given no reason for them to think he’d seek revenge, but their imaginations told them otherwise. Their perception of Joseph was all wrong, based on their own guilt for betraying him years prior.

The human nature is complicated, isn’t it? We form opinions about other people based on false impressions. We judge their character based on wrong information. We mistakenly presume based on our own issues. When we do such things, we lose out.

Thankfully my experience with the Eastern European lady taught me a valuable lesson, and I have a hunch that Joseph’s brothers learned a thing or two when he proved their fears unfounded. My desire is to see people as God sees them, not as through my defective lens. I want to think the best rather than assume the worst. By God’s grace, He’ll enable me to do that so I don’t miss out on the blessing that comes from building relationships with others.

Have you ever formed a wrong opinion of someone? If so, how was that opinion proved wrong?

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My Heroes

Monday, January 25th, 2010

Nearly two years ago, a portion of the sanctuary floor of Central Heights Church in Abbotsford, B.C. (which happens to be the church I attend) collapsed during a Starfield concert. Dozens were injured. Debbie Helsloot, a 41-year-old mother of three, was most seriously hurt.

Debbie suffered a broken neck. She spent more than 6 weeks in the hospital and nearly 3 months in rehab, learning to walk again. Her injuries have left her with balance issues, making walking awkward and climbing stairs a challenge. She requires physical therapy three times a week. Her physical endurance is nowhere near what it was before the accident.

It was my privilege to interview Debbie recently and to write her profile. What an amazing woman she is. While in the hospital, she determined to make the best of a difficult situation so she made it her goal to share Christ’s love with the nurses who cared for her. She refused to be discouraged by the doctors’ prognosis of permanent paralysis. And she rejected any hint of a victim mentality. Instead, she acknowledged God’s sovereignty in her life and has chosen to embrace her circumstances as an opportunity to know His strength in her life to a new degree.

Debbie is my modern-day hero.

Joseph is my hero, too. This guy went through so much stuff – sold into slavery by his own brothers, falsely accused of rape, tossed into prison for a crime he didn’t commit, forgotten by the man who promised to help his case – and yet, he refused to let his circumstances shape his outlook. Like Debbie, he rejected any hint of a victim mentality. He recognized God’s sovereignty in his life, and that attitude shaped his entire perspective. The names he gave his sons reflect this:

“Joseph named his older son Manasseh, for he said, ‘God has made me forget all my troubles and everyone in my father’s family.’ Joseph named his second son Ephraim, for he said, ‘God has made me fruitful in this land of my grief’” (Genesis 41:51,52).

What an attitude! Joseph deliberately chose not to dwell on the way others had mistreated him. He chose not to badmouth his offenders or to seek revenge. Instead, he focused on God’s healing power in his life, and on the good things He’d done in the midst of the tough stuff.

When life takes an unexpected and difficult detour, it’s easy to get sucked into a ‘woe-is-me’ mentality. It takes courage and determination to steer clear of that common pitfall and travel a different route. How is it possible? Here are a few thoughts:

  • Give thanks in all things. We might not feel like giving thanks for our circumstances, but we can give thanks in them. For instance, we can give thanks that God’s love for us will never end, and that His promises never fail.
  • Refuse to dwell on the what-ifs. Instead, dwell on the for-sures. For sure, God has not abandoned us. For sure, the pain of this earthly life is temporal. For sure, heaven awaits where all sorrow and tears will be forever wiped away.
  • Know that God wants to make us fruitful in the land of our grief. When we respond to trials as Debbie and Joseph did, our lives will bear fruit. Our understanding of God’s character is deepened. And we’ll have opportunity to tell others about our reason for hope. Our words will encourage them when they travel the rocky road.

Debbie and Joseph are my heroes. Do you have a hero who has displayed strength and courage in the face of extreme difficulties? If so, tell us about this person so that we can be encouraged, too.

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The Power of a Little Word

Friday, January 22nd, 2010

The word but is neither fancy nor flowery. It’s not loaded with visual imagery. Used alone, it neither stimulates the senses nor sends imaginations soaring. Nevertheless, it’s packed with power and ability to change the direction of our lives.

Take Joseph for instance. When Pharaoh asked him to interpret his dreams, Joseph replied, “It is beyond my power to do this…but God can tell you what it means and set you at ease” (Genesis 41:16).

But. Three letters. One little word. One life instantly and dramatically changed. And millions of others impacted.

Now let’s rewind the story and imagine the scenario minus the word but. Put yourself in the palace as Pharaoh asks for Joseph’s help. This time, Joseph’s first thought is Who, me? I can’t do this! His heart pounds and his palms sweat. Finally he sputters, “It’s beyond my power to do this.” Bad move. He loses his head or lands back in prison with plenty of time for regret.

Thankfully, Joseph forged beyond “it is beyond my power to do this” and put his faith into practice. “It is beyond my power to do this, but God can tell you what it means,” he said. But moved him from prison to palace and gave him a position he’d never imagined.

The word but contains the same life-changing power for us today. It applies to our fear of inadequacy, but there are other scenarios, too:

  • “It’s beyond my power to forgive so-and-so for hurting me…but God can give me the grace necessary to let it go.”
  • “It’s beyond my power to give thanks for the heartache in my life…but God can enable me to do what He commands.”
  • “It’s beyond my power to face another day…but God can give me the strength I need.”

There it is. Three letters. One little word. One life instantly and dramatically changed. And who knows, but maybe millions of other lives impacted.

Here’s your assignment for the day. Fill in the blank. “It’s beyond my power to ____________. But God can __________________.”

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Freedom From Prison

Wednesday, January 20th, 2010

Last weekend I received an email from a woman who has struggled with anorexia for 35 years. “I’m desperate,” she wrote. “Please, can you share any insights with me? Can you tell me where to find help?”

This woman feels like she’s in a prison. And for good reason. She’s been trapped by untruths that are slowly and persistently devouring her sense of worth. This dungeon holds a death sentence unless she finds a way of escape.  

Each time I speak at weekend retreats, someone approaches me and quietly spills her story. I can almost guarantee it falls into one of these categories: Abortion. Sexual abuse. Alcoholism or drug abuse. Abandonment. An extramarital affair. An  eating disorder. A husband addicted to pornography. A recent loss through death. A prodigal child.

Sometimes these women tell stories of overcoming, of finding that way of escape, and moving into new-found freedom. But often they speak haltingly, their eyes filling with tears as they describe the prison they’re in. The chains of unforgiveness, anger, bitterness, regret, shame, and self-blame offer no mercy. But God does.

To no fault of his own, Joseph spent 14 years in prison. This was a literal dungeon reserved for the most dangerous criminals, but it carried the potential of becoming a prison of the soul, too. How did Joseph survive his experience without becoming enslaved by bitterness? How did he escape the anger that could easily accompany being falsely accused of rape? I think the secret is found in Genesis 39:21. “But the Lord was with Joseph in the prison and showed him his faithful love.”

The Lord was with Joseph then, and He’s with us today. That’s a truth we often forget, especially when our problems feel overwhelming. Here’s another truth – He wants to show us His faithful love in the midst of our difficulties.

We’d prefer that God show us His love by rescuing us and by doing it right now. We want a microwave fix, quick resolutions, easy answers. But life’s not like that. Our journey is often long and arduous, filled with hindrances, hassles, and headaches. But in the midst of it all, God wants to show us evidences of His faithful love. Do we see them when they come?

Personally, God often shows me evidences of His love through songs. Lyrics tiptoe into my thoughts at just the right moment and remind me of His faithfulness, of His strength, of His never-ending love for me. Sometimes He sends a phone call or an email via a friend or one of my readers. Sometimes the evidence is shown through a pithy quote or something I read in a book or magazine. He hugs me from heaven, reminds me of His presence, and I am free.

Now it’s your turn. What evidences have you seen recently of God’s love for you? How has He set you free from the prison of the soul?

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Aha Moments

Monday, October 12th, 2009

Happy Thanksgiving to my Canadian friends!

This blog entry is the first one I taught on 100 Huntley Street’s “Truth to Go.” You can view it online at www.crossroadstv.ca. Click on “Watch Program” and go to the one that aired on Monday, October 5.

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Life doesn’t always turn out the way we hope or plan. Sometimes our circumstances don’t make sense, and we wonder if God really knows what He’s doing.

I wonder if that’s how Joseph felt at times. His story, found in Genesis, says he was only 17 years old when his jealous older brothers sold him into slavery. Potiphar, a member of Pharaoh’s staff, bought him and put him in charge of his household affairs. Trouble was, Potiphar’s wife wanted an affair of her own – with Joseph. He rejected her advances, she accused him of rape, and he was thrown into prison.

The jail cell became Joseph’s classroom where he majored in a 13-year-long course called “Character Development.” Psalm 105:18 and 19 say, “There in prison, they bruised his feet with fetters and placed his neck in an iron collar. Until the time came to fulfill his word, the Lord tested Joseph’s character.”

Joseph was 30 years old when he was finally released and suddenly appointed second-in-command in Egypt – a prominent, powerful position. Just as he’d predicted, seven years of prosperity gave way to famine. One day his brothers came in search of food for their families. Scripture tells us that Joseph recognized them, but they didn’t know him. He waited until they returned a second time before he revealed his identity.

Imagine the emotion of that moment! And imagine Joseph’s expression when suddenly his circumstances over the past 20 years made sense:

“You sold me into slavery,” Joseph told his brothers, “but don’t be angry with yourselves that you did this to me, for God did it. He sent me here ahead of you to preserve your lives. Yes, it was God who sent me here, not you!”

My husband and I lived in Nepal in the 80s. He was a civil engineer working on a hydro-electric project, and I taught basic health care. We lived in a mud and rock hut with a thatch roof, no electricity, no running water, and no indoor plumbing. I wrestled with culture shock, language learning, and loneliness. Two years passed before I began settling into village life. That’s when we committed our lives to ministry there. One week after our interview with a career mission agency, our second child was born with major medical issues. We had to return to North America within days. Then I encountered reverse culture shock.

Over the years, I often wondered what role that experience played in our lives. In 2007, we were asked to launch International Messengers Canada. One of our tasks is to provide member care for our missionaries. I shared my testimony with our women at the first IM conference we attended, and as I concluded, these words came from my mouth, “When you struggle with language learning, I can empathize. When you struggle with loneliness, I understand. When you struggle with reverse culture shock, I get it!” Suddenly everything made sense. God had used our time in Nepal to prepare us for a ministry that would come 25 years later.

Life doesn’t always turn out the way we plan or hope. Sometimes our circumstances are difficult to understand. But God knows what He’s doing. Our role is to trust His wisdom and His ways.

One day – if not here, then in heaven – everything will make sense. We’ll see God’s hand in our circumstances. We’ll be amazed, humbled, and awestruck. But until then, let’s allow Him to be God, to fulfill His plan His way and in His time even when we don’t understand.

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The Details of our Lives

Thursday, May 7th, 2009

Yesterday I wrote about God being in control of every detail of Ruth’s life. He orchestrated events to fulfill His eternal purpose. I see the same is true for Joseph, although his circumstances looked much different (Psalm 105:16-22).

I wonder how Joseph felt after his brothers threw him into the pit? What were his thoughts as they sold him into slavery? What was he thinking when he was falsely accused of rape and thrown into jail? How did he feel when “they bruised his feet with fetters and placed his neck in an iron collar” (v. 18)? Was he aware of God’s presence with him, or did he feel as though he’d been abandoned by the Divine? In the end, he says that what man intended for evil, God meant for good, and he acknowledged God’s role in his circumstances. What an amazing attitude!

When life gets rough, it’s easy for us to forget that God controls every detail. When we don’t see the bigger picture, it’s easy for us to fall into self-pity or anger or blame. Sometimes I have to consciously remind myself that God is sovereign…at all times. His purposes are far beyond my understanding.

When the details of life don’t fall into place as I wish they would, I’m forced with a choice: get stressed out, or rest in the knowledge that God is in control. The first option causes me to wrestle; the second allows me to nestle.

Can you relate?

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An "Aha" Moment

Thursday, January 22nd, 2009

Have you ever had an “aha” moment? You know, a time when something suddenly made sense…something that had perhaps puzzled you until then?

This morning I read about Joseph’s “aha” moment and it brought tears to my eyes (Genesis 45:3-9). Imagine how he must have felt when he realized that God Himself had ordained his circumstances in order to fulfill His purposes!

About 20 years had passed since his brothers had thrown him into a pit and then sold him into slavery. Twenty years — that’s a long time to brood and plan revenge. Finally his chance comes to get even, but Joseph refuses to stoop so low. Recognizing God’s sovereignty frees him from any hint of bitterness. It allows him to embrace his brothers and rejoice at being reunited with them.

I had an “aha” moment a couple years ago when I looked back over difficult circumstances and suddenly saw God’s plan in action. When my husband and I were first married, we lived in Nepal where he worked as a civil engineer. We lived in a mud and rock hut with a thatch roof, no electricity, no running water, and no indoor plumbing. I struggled with isolation and loneliness, culture shock, and language learning. We had our first child while living there, and I had no older women to show me how to care for this new baby. When our second child was born with medical issues that required an immediate return to North America, I struggled with reverse culture shock.

Over the years, I often wondered why God asked us to go through what we did, only to bring us back to NA. And then came the “aha” moment.

Now we’re the directors of International Messengers Canada, and one of our roles is to provide member care for our missionaries. At the first IM conference we attended, I was sharing this testimony with our missionary women in Eastern Europe when these words came from my mouth: “And so, ladies, when you struggle with language learning, I know how you feel. When you struggle with loneliness, I understand. When you go back to your countries and struggle with reverse culture shock, I get it!” That’s when the light came on in my head. Aha!!

God had a plan. He was sovereign over every detail in our lives. He knew exactly what He was doing when He put us into that overseas situation and then took us back to NA. He was preparing us for a ministry that would begin more than 20 years later.

We don’t always get to see God’s plan — in some instances, we’ll have to wait until we reach heaven. But whether we experience an “aha” moment here on earth or beyond the pearly gates, we can rest in the knowledge that God has a plan and is in control. Let’s allow Him to be God — in that way, we can respond as Joseph did, free of bitterness and anger.

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Feeling versus Knowing

Tuesday, January 20th, 2009

Amen to the comment about yesterday’s post! When Joseph was betrayed by his family and then thrown into prison for being lied about, I wonder how he felt. Did he feel like God was with him? Or did he have to choose to believe it?

Therein lies the challenge for real life, eh? Heaven help us from living life based on our feelings. Sheesh, we can get ourselves into a lot of trouble that way. And we can find ourselves in a pit of despair, too. The enemy just loves to mess with our minds, feeding us lies to discourage us when we’re going through tough stuff. We have to fight back by filling our minds with God’s truth and choosing to believe it.

When we live according to God’s truth, we can overcome all the negatives that the enemy throws our way. And we can flourish in the midst of the challenges. Joseph’s life proves that this is possible.

This morning I read more about Joseph’s story. Genesis 41:52 says this: “Joseph named his second son Ephraim, for he said, ‘God has made me fruitful in this land of my suffering.’” This really challenged me to think about my response to difficulties.

Could I say that God makes me fruitful in my suffering? Do good things result from my response to hard times? Or do I tend to curl up in a fetal position and wish the world would go away? Do I harbor bitterness? Do I whine about my circumstances and compare my lot to others who never seem to have problems?

I sure hope it’s not the latter. I want to learn to embrace difficulties as opportunities to bear fruit, more fruit, and even MORE fruit!

How about you? If you have a story about how God produced fruit through suffering in your life, I’d love for you to tell us about it here.

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The Same Lesson — Take Two

Monday, January 19th, 2009

It’s been a few days since I posted — I’ve been out of town for ministry, and when that happens I don’t always have internet access. This will be my greatest challenge when I travel throughout the next few weeks. I wish there was an easy answer to this one. Any suggestions out there?

This morning I read Genesis 39 and was blessed to bits by a phrase that popped up over and over. It’s a simple phrase, one that was true about Jacob in the last post. Check it out:

v. 2 — “The Lord was with Joseph…” (after being sold as a slave to Potiphar)
v. 3 — “The Lord was with Joseph…”
v. 21 — “But the Lord was with Joseph there, too…” (in prison after being falsely accused of raping his boss’ wife)
v. 23 — “The Lord was with him…”

Joseph’s own siblings sold him into slavery. That must have been a little hard for the teenager to process. And being unjustly thrown into prison would have been another blow to the boy. And yet there’s no doubt that God was sovereign in Joseph’s life, ruling over the circumstances because He ultimately had a purpose far beyond human understanding.

I LOVE this story! Even when life is difficult, God is with us — what a tremendous truth to remember and apply to our lives!

When the economy waffles and wavers, God is with us. When our kids get sick, God is with us. When our marriage goes through tough times, God is with us. When a phone call comes and brings bad news, God is with us. When God calls us to get involved in a ministry opportunity beyond our comfort zone, He is with us. What more do we need than God’s promised presence? In that reality, we find comfort and hope and courage.

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