Posts Tagged ‘Moving From Fear to Freedom’

The Foibles of Human Logic

Friday, September 10th, 2010

I’m sitting in the board room of “FamilyLife Today” in Little Rock, Arkansas, as I write this. Quite frankly, this feels like a surreal experience. Years ago I was a stay-at-home mom who padded our family’s budget by cleaning other people’s homes. Later, after we entered a year-round Christian camping ministry, I scrubbed pots and pans and baked umpteen dozen birthday cakes for summer staff and campers alike. Never, ever – even if I outlived Methuselah – would I have imagined that someday I’d be sitting here, typing my blog as I wait for my turn to be interviewed by Dennis Rainey and Bob LePine about my book Moving From Fear to Freedom. The only thing I can say is that God is full of surprises for those who say yes to His assignments.

Dennis Rainey, Grace, Bob LePine at FamilyLife Today

I remember when I first sensed God nudging me to write this book. My human logic scoffed at the idea: “Who, me? You want me to do what? Are you kidding? I can’t do that.” It reminded me that I’d never taken a course about how to write books. And it ridiculed me with possible failure or rejection if I tried. Thank goodness God’s voice spoke louder than logic.

Relying on human logic makes sense in some cases. For example, we know that washing our hands with soap after using the toilet helps prevent the spread of disease. We understand that driving drunk will likely result in an accident. And spending money frivolously while on a limited budget will drain our bank account dry. Some facts about life never change and they don’t require the brains of a rocket scientist to figure them out. But human logic doesn’t always align with God’s method of thinking. Sometimes His ways look silly or even slightly ridiculous when measured against Human Logic 101.

How did Noah feel when God told him to build the ark? What did Joshua think when God told him to march around Jericho seven times and then blast it with trumpets? What did Moses feel when God told him to draw water from a rock for millions of thirsty Israelites? If these guys had listened to logic, their stories would have ended much differently.

Sometimes human logic is downright contrary to God’s thinking. Take for instance, the reasoning behind euthanasia or the abortion industry. Logic says inconvenience justifies the ending of life; God says all life is precious. Logic says we must have financial security; God warns us to trust in Him alone to meet our needs. Logic says we can satisfy our selfish desires in secret and get away with it God says what’s hidden in the darkness will be brought to light. Logic tells us we’re not skilled enough or smart enough or talented enough to do what God is asking us to do; God says He’ll equip us for the task.                                                                                                       

If we want to live life as God intends for us, then we need to discern the difference between human logic and His way thinking, and we need to choose the latter. 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 says, “We are human, but we don’t wage war as humans do. We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to knock down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments. We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.” 

When human logic fails to align with what God says, we need to call it what it is: a false argument and a rebellious thought. If we listen to it and live by it, it becomes a proud obstacle that keeps us from knowing God. Our responsibility is to destroy it using God’s mighty weapons. We need to fill our minds with the Truth of His Word and listen to the voice of His Holy Spirit, obeying what He says rather than following the logic that leads us down the wrong path.

Human logic told me that I had little or nothing of significance to offer other women. God said otherwise.  If I’d listened to logic and agreed with it, I’d have rebelled against God. That would have prevented me from experiencing His amazing sufficiency and surprises.

Can you relate to what I’ve expressed today? Has human logic hindered you from experiencing life as God intends for you? If so, how?

Perspective on Pain

Wednesday, September 1st, 2010

Before launching into today’s devotional, I have a very special announcement! Stonecroft Ministries Canada asked me to write a study guide to accompany Moving From Fear to Freedom and to produce a 7-part teaching DVD. The study guide is in the publishing process now, and the DVD will be recorded live this fall. Would you like to be a part of the audience?

Date: Every Thursday from September 30-November 11

Time: 7-8 P.M.

Place: House of James bookstore, Abbotsford, BC

Cost: Only $20. This includes the 7 sessions plus workbook.

Program: I’ll teach about a specific aspect of fear for 15-20 minutes each session. Then participants will break into small groups for discussion, using the study guide. We’ll share from our personal lives and examine God’s Word to learn how to overcome the fears that often hinder us from embracing life as fully as God intends. This is an evangelistic outreach, so bring your friends and introduce them to Jesus Christ.

Registration: Follow these directions.

Space is limited to 40. I hope to see you there!

Now, for today’s devotional thought….

One of my Power for Living interviews was with a gal named Jan Turner. Amazing woman.  Years ago she contracted pneumococcal pneumonia. Her body struggled to survive by shutting down blood flow to her extremities. Gangrene set in, and she had to undergo a quadruple amputation.

A single mom with two adopted sons, Jan determined not to let discouragement override her. She applied herself to the rigors of physical therapy and learned how to walk with prosthetics. Using metal hooks that replaced her hands, she learned how to do all the usual things able-bodied people take for granted – things like combing her hair, brushing her teeth, driving and cooking. She returned to school and obtained a second degree in Communications, and she became an ordained pastor.

I listened in awe as Jan told me her story, and then I asked her how she maintained such a positive outlook in the midst of pain. She quoted 2 Corinthians 4:16-18: “…Though our bodies are dying, our spirits are being renewed every day. For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever! So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather, we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever.”

“It’s all in one’s perspective,” said Jan. She explained that when troubles come, we’re all faced with a choice regarding where we fix our gaze. Will it be on the pain or on God’s promises?

Focusing on God’s promises might sound trite to someone dealing with extreme difficulties, but in reality, what else can we do when there’s no easy answer and hope seems distant at best? Fixing her gaze on the Truth of God’s Word worked for Jan – her life proves it. It’ll work for the rest of us, too.

What particular promise from God’s Word has sustained you and given you a proper perspective in the midst of pain?

On to Slovakia

Tuesday, July 20th, 2010

Our team traveled to Budapest where we spent the night and then went separate ways the next morning. Gene and I caught a shuttle van to Kosice, Slovakia with one of our team members who will now minister there in an evangelistic family camp with five other Canadian volunteers. She was transporting her personal luggage plus three suitcases loaded with camp supplies, so there was no way we were going to put her on a train to deal with that stuff on her own. Thankfully the van was air-conditioned; it’s hot as blazes and muggy here. Sweat trickles down our necks and backs, and our pants stick to our legs if we sit anywhere too long.

We stayed two nights in a little house down the street from our IM Canada career staff, Brad and Karla Thiessen. I was able to wash our clothes in a washing machine – yahoo! What a treat to do it this way as opposed to in a bathroom sink or on the floor of a hotel shower. I hung the laundry on a makeshift line and it dried in less than an hour, denims included.

I was glad to have several hours to review my manuscript for the study guide that will accompany Moving From Fear to Freedom. The editor has done her job on it and sent some suggested revisions. She also asked me to check several references – that’s a bit tricky to do because I didn’t bring the Bible from which I quoted. Hmmm…I’ll need to find a fix for that so the production process can continue while I’m away.

We had a delightful surprise here. Our IM Canada short-termers were invited to a “garden party” hosted by a woman named Irena and her husband. Irena was my translator when we brought a team to a Slovakian evangelistic family camp in 2008. She and I really hit it off then and have been friends every since. We didn’t know about the party until we arrived here, and she didn’t know that Gene and I were in Kosice until she opened her door and saw us standing on her doorstep. What fun to see the look on her face and to exchange kisses on each other’s cheeks! We even had a few moments to share from our hearts and to pray for concerns. “Thank You, God, for the gift of girlfriends worldwide who share my love for You.”

It was also a delight to meet our IM Canadian short-termers within hours of their arrival here. They didn’t know we’d be here so it was fun to surprise them and have dinner together. I felt sorry for them – they were heavy into jet lag. One of our women sprained her ankle in the afternoon so Irena set her on a futon with her foot elevated and then found ice chips to place on the swelling. Poor thing! She’s wondering what lesson God plans to teach her through this unfortunate accident. She needs our prayers, as does everyone on the team as they head to the camp venue and prepare for a week of sharing God’s love with campers of all ages.

IM short-termers and interns at Irena's garden party

My friend Irena (right)

Who’s in Control, Anyway?

Wednesday, June 23rd, 2010

A recurring theme has brought me huge encouragement over the past couple of weeks. It’s all about God’s sovereignty in the lives of His kids. I’ve been pondering this truth…meditating on it…mulling over it. The result? I think I’m beginning to understand what it means to be still, to cease striving, and to know that He is God. And with that understanding comes rest, peace, and confidence.

Peter recognized this truth at work in his life, too. It happened after King Herod Agrippa had arrested and imprisoned him. The night before he was to be placed on trial, an angel rescued him from his cell. At first Peter thought the angel was a vision and his escape was only a dream. But Acts 12:11 says, “Peter finally came to his senses. ‘It’s really true!’ he said. ‘The Lord has sent his angel and saved me from Herod and from what the Jewish leaders had planned to do to me!’”

In Peter’s aha moment, he acknowledged that God was in control of his life. The Jewish leaders had planned to do him harm, but God had plans of a different kind and He had the resources to fulfill them. Guess who won?

When we’re walking in right relationship with the living God, we can rest assured that everything’s under control – His control. Psalm 138:8 says, “The LORD will work out his plans for my life – for your faithful love, O LORD, endures forever. Don’t abandon me, for you made me.”

This theme of God’s ultimate sovereignty is especially meaningful to me today. I’ve written a study guide for Moving From Fear to Freedom and am awaiting a decision about a grant application that would provide the funds to publish it and produce a corresponding 7-part teaching DVD. Today, this potential product is being presented at the U.S. headquarters of an international women’s ministry. If it’s accepted there, then the grant will likely be approved and the book and DVD can be produced as an evangelism tool for women’s groups.

I’m excited at the prospect. I’ve seen many details come together to bring this concept to this point. But I’m also aware of the what-ifs – What if the U.S. staff say no? What if the grant isn’t approved? I’ve worked on this project for weeks, I’ve booked a venue and a videographer for the live teaching sessions that will take place this fall, I’ve figured out a budget and filled out a grant application, and the list goes on. My challenge now lies in trusting God’s sovereignty. Do I really believe that the Lord will work out His plans for my life as He promises?

I’m pondering this truth, meditating on it, mulling over it…and I’m experiencing rest, peace and confidence (most of the time!). Would you pray with me for God to accomplish His purposes in this situation?

 What situation in your life calls you to trust God’s control?

Mother’s Day Musings

Friday, May 7th, 2010

Before writing Moving From Fear to Freedom, I conducted a survey of approximately 350 women ages 19-80. According to results, a woman’s #1 fear is the fear for her child’s well-being. One woman said, “I’m not even a mother yet, and already I’m afraid for my child’s safety.”

It’s not just concern for their physical safety that causes anxiety, although heaven knows there’s plenty of reason for that. I recall the days when protecting my little ones from falling down stairwells, straying into a busy street or swallowing something that could choke them obsessed me. That was nothing compared to the anxiety I felt when they started driving alone and when they left home following high school graduation.

Thankfully my kids and I survived their childhood and teenage years. Now they’re in their 20s and becoming parents themselves. I love them dearly and I’m proud of who they’ve become. There’s only one problem – I still wrestle with fear for my children’s well-being. What if they flounder financially? What if they struggle with relationships? What if they make poor choices that will affect them negatively for the rest of their lives? What if they’re treated unfairly in the work place? What if they lose their passion for Jesus? What if, what if, what if….

Once upon a time, I raced to protect my kids from danger. If they fell and scraped a knee, I could give them a kiss and fix the owie. Now I can’t do that. They’re adults and making their own choices. They’re not obligated to ask for my advice, and I’m wise not to offer it too freely. So what’s a mom to do?

Here’s a verse that’s ideal for mothers who can relate to what I’m feeling: “Those who fear the Lord are secure; he will be a refuge for their children” (Proverbs 14:26). What a great promise! It reminds me to keep my focus on God for therein lies my ability to move beyond my fears for my kids’ well-being. He is my security no matter what circumstances my family faces. It also contains a promise for my children.

God promises to be their refuge. He invites them to run to Him, to pour out their hearts to Him and to find their needs met in Him. He’s their source of wisdom and strength. He loves them unconditionally and knows the big picture surrounding their lives and His purpose for them.

Granted, your kids and mine have free will. They can choose to find their refuge in Him or to run the other direction. That’s where our prayers come in. There’s nothing I pray more than for God to instill a healthy fear of Himself within my kids’ (and grandkids’) hearts. I know life will go much better for them if they view it with an appropriate understanding of who God is.

Perhaps your kids are struggling in their spiritual lives. Making God their refuge isn’t even on their radar. If so, do not lose heart. Keep your focus on the Lord and find your security in Him. Thank Him that He’s promised to be a refuge for your children. Keep asking Him to instill a reverential awe for Him within their hearts. And may He fill you with hope and joy in knowing that He is more than able to fulfill His Word.

Do you have a special promise or prayer that relates to your kids?

The Key to Moving From Fear to Freedom

Monday, March 1st, 2010

This week I have opportunity to do three radio interviews based on Moving From Fear to Freedom. This morning’s interview was with http://www.wkto.net/ out of Florida. Had a great time chatting with the host and encouraging listeners to focus on God’s promises and character rather than on circumstances.

Truth be told, I don’t think it’s possible to live life completely free of fear. In the midst of unknowns, however, we can learn how to deal with fear so it doesn’t consume us and hinder us from fulfilling God’s purposes for our lives. And hey – we can even experience joy in the midst of our fearful situations. Here’s proof:

Two women named Mary went to see Jesus’ tomb on the third day following his crucifixion. To their shock, the tomb was empty and an angel sat on the boulder that had sealed its entrance (Matthew 28). “Don’t be afraid!” said the angel. “I know you’re looking for the crucified Jesus. But he’s not here because he’s been raised from the dead.” Then he invited them to see the empty place where the body had been laid. Note this…

“The women ran quickly from the tomb. They were very frightened but also filled with great joy, and they rushed to find the disciples to give them the angel’s message” (v. 8).

What enabled these women to experience joy in the midst of their fear? The essence of the angel’s message: Jesus had been raised from the dead!

This, I believe, is the key to moving from fear to freedom and even experiencing joy in the process. Jesus’ resurrection means He’s the victor over sin and death once for all. It means the enemy of our souls is defeated. His resurrection doesn’t guarantee life without problems, but it means He’s there to give us the answers we need and to walk with us through those problems. So, yes, we’ll encounter fear along our journey. But yes, we can experience joy in the midst because Jesus was raised from the dead!

What does this truth mean to your life today?

Amazing Encounters and Encouragement

Wednesday, December 30th, 2009

I came to Urbana ’09 to represent International Messengers and to answer questions/encourage students who are exploring options for their future. During Monday morning’s worship service, however, I heard the leader say, “God has brought you here for a reason. What does He want to tell you or show you?” Hey – that’s right, I thought. I’m here to do my job as a mission co-director, but that’s not the only reason. God has something for me, too. What message does He want to give me?

Later that day, a woman named Beth stopped by our booth to speak with me. Her daughter had read Moving From Fear to Freedom, found it very helpful, and started following this blog. When she’d read about my trip to Urbana, she asked Beth to meet me here and to tell me that the book had helped her work through fear issues in her life. Wow – what an encouragement to me as an author and blogger. As we spoke, Beth called her daughter on her cell phone and then handed the phone to me. Another wow – what a treat to speak with this young woman whose life has been impacted by the words I’ve written in solitude.

While I love writing, I don’t find it an easy task. Penning a worthwhile article or book or even a blog takes much time and energy. It requires a willingness to be transparent and to risk rejection by readers who may not agree with what flows from my heart. It requires saying no to other activities that would be a whole lot easier. But I know that my mission is to write the message God puts within my heart, to communicate hope to those who are discouraged, truth to those who are choosing the wrong path, and light to those who have lost their way. I don’t know who my readers are, and I don’t know their deepest needs, but God does. It’s my job to obey – to write – and it’s His job to put my words into the hands of those who need to read them.

What message has God given me at Urbana ’09 (so far)? To continue writing, even though I cannot track the results. He’s using my skill to bring glory to Himself and I’m forever grateful.

What skill(s) has He given you? How can you use them for His glory?

Dealing with Disappointment

Friday, September 18th, 2009

I’ve had two days to ponder some disappointing news: Moving From Fear to Freedom will be remaindered by the publisher in January. That means it will no longer be available in stores. What happened? Sales didn’t meet a certain standard, just like a gazillion other books pulled from publication after two years in public view.

I know how I struggled over writing this book…the labor pains involved in bringing it to birth. Now I feel like a mother watching someone pull the plug on my baby because he didn’t think it deserved to live. Sounds melodramatic, perhaps, but that’s just how an author feels when this happens.

Couple that with feedback that readers send me:

  • “This book has changed my life. It’s helped me identify fears I didn’t even know I had, and set me free;”
  • “This is the only book I keep on my nightstand, beside my Bible. I refer to it constantly.”
  • “This book gave me the courage to step out and start a home business that I’ve been wanting to start for years.”
  • “Thank you for writing this book. Your honesty has helped me be honest, and as a result, I’ve been able to let go of stuff that’s held me back for years.”

In the past week, two local women have told me they’ll be studying it with their small groups this winter. Good things are happening. God is using it to change lives. But the sales aren’t good enough to keep it on the shelves. Go figure.

As I grappled with my disappointment, the Lord gave me these words: “You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in You, whose thoughts are fixed on you. Trust in the Lord always, for the Lord God is the eternal Rock” (Isaiah 26:3,4).

The key word for me is fixed. My thoughts are tempted to flit and flutter from here to there and everywhere – wondering why marketing efforts didn’t produce more, wondering what more I could have done,  yada, yada. But God says to super-glue my thoughts on Him and Him alone. He has a purpose. He promises to accomplish all that concerns me. He knows what He’s up to even though I don’t understand. And He tells me to trust Him.

It’s been a difficult two days, but it’s been a good learning time. I’m practicing all those things I encourage my readers and audiences to do when they face disappointment. And guess what? I’m beginning to experience peace about it, just like God promised.

How about you? Have you faced a situation in which you fixed your thoughts on God and then experienced His peace?

Announcement: Moving From Fear to Freedom

Wednesday, August 26th, 2009

I’m doing a happy dance today…

Wait! That doesn’t sound very spiritual, does it? Perhaps I should say, “I’m feeling very blessed.” Whatever. The reason for my excitement is the same no matter how I express it. What’s it all about? I’ve had some wonderful feedback/ministry opportunities in the past couple of days regarding Moving From Fear to Freedom: A Woman’s Guide to Peace in Every Situation.Freedom -- Fox

One woman called today to say she feels God is telling her to use this book for a year-long study with a group of young mothers involved in the MOMS program (Mentoring Our Mothers Society). She said she read it this summer and found it incredible. Praise the Lord!

Before that phone call ended, my doorbell rang. There stood a woman I’ve met only once, while at a women’s retreat three years ago. She told me how her 30-year-old son died in a motorcycle accident in July, and how this book has transformed her life by giving her the courage to share her life’s journey, including this tragedy, with others. Her copy was  highlighted, and the corners of numerous pages were turned down.

I listened to her testimony in awe, praising God for how He’d directed me to write this book , given me the courage and ability to do the job, and provided a publisher who believed in its message (Harvest House Publishers).

Perhaps you’re looking for a book to share with a friend who’s been recently diagnosed with cancer, or whose marriage has recently broken up. Perhaps you’re in those circumtances yourself and needing encouragement. Maybe you’re looking for a book to study with a group this fall or winter. Consider Moving From Fear to Freedom – it’s making a huge difference in readers’ lives.  It’s available at bookstores everywhere. If you’ve read it and found it to be helpful, would you consider spreading the good word on Facebook and Twitter, or in your own blog? The message about overcoming fear is too important to fall by the wayside! Thank you!

Now read on for today’s devotional…

Day #2 — or is it Day #3?

Tuesday, March 3rd, 2009
Laura Stein's discipleship group

Laura Stein's discipleship group

Slovakian women discussing how to overcome the fear of inadequacy.

Slovakian women discussing how to overcome the fear of inadequacy.

Journal entry for Thursday, February 5, 2009

It looks like I skipped a day, but in reality I didn’t. We lost a day traveling east, so it was actually Wednesday when we arrived in Kosice.

I woke this morning feeling like I’d been hit by a truck. My nose was stuffed, my head was conjested. The last thing I need is a cold. Considering all the germs that probably circulate in an airplane, it’s a wonder that I’ve never caught a cold before while flying.

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