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Freedom From Prison

Wednesday, January 20th, 2010

Last weekend I received an email from a woman who has struggled with anorexia for 35 years. “I’m desperate,” she wrote. “Please, can you share any insights with me? Can you tell me where to find help?”

This woman feels like she’s in a prison. And for good reason. She’s been trapped by untruths that are slowly and persistently devouring her sense of worth. This dungeon holds a death sentence unless she finds a way of escape.  

Each time I speak at weekend retreats, someone approaches me and quietly spills her story. I can almost guarantee it falls into one of these categories: Abortion. Sexual abuse. Alcoholism or drug abuse. Abandonment. An extramarital affair. An  eating disorder. A husband addicted to pornography. A recent loss through death. A prodigal child.

Sometimes these women tell stories of overcoming, of finding that way of escape, and moving into new-found freedom. But often they speak haltingly, their eyes filling with tears as they describe the prison they’re in. The chains of unforgiveness, anger, bitterness, regret, shame, and self-blame offer no mercy. But God does.

To no fault of his own, Joseph spent 14 years in prison. This was a literal dungeon reserved for the most dangerous criminals, but it carried the potential of becoming a prison of the soul, too. How did Joseph survive his experience without becoming enslaved by bitterness? How did he escape the anger that could easily accompany being falsely accused of rape? I think the secret is found in Genesis 39:21. “But the Lord was with Joseph in the prison and showed him his faithful love.”

The Lord was with Joseph then, and He’s with us today. That’s a truth we often forget, especially when our problems feel overwhelming. Here’s another truth – He wants to show us His faithful love in the midst of our difficulties.

We’d prefer that God show us His love by rescuing us and by doing it right now. We want a microwave fix, quick resolutions, easy answers. But life’s not like that. Our journey is often long and arduous, filled with hindrances, hassles, and headaches. But in the midst of it all, God wants to show us evidences of His faithful love. Do we see them when they come?

Personally, God often shows me evidences of His love through songs. Lyrics tiptoe into my thoughts at just the right moment and remind me of His faithfulness, of His strength, of His never-ending love for me. Sometimes He sends a phone call or an email via a friend or one of my readers. Sometimes the evidence is shown through a pithy quote or something I read in a book or magazine. He hugs me from heaven, reminds me of His presence, and I am free.

Now it’s your turn. What evidences have you seen recently of God’s love for you? How has He set you free from the prison of the soul?

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Journal Entry for July 6

Wednesday, July 8th, 2009
Spa day for the girls!

Spa day for the girls!

Typical Romanian outdoor grill

Typical Romanian outdoor grill

 What an amazing day! When we do our Bible lessons, the kids listen like there’s no tomorrow – and for some of them, this may literally be true. They ask questions like, “How can God allow bad people to have good lives, and good people to have lots of trouble? Why are some people so poor when others have so much?” They want answers – real ones that apply to their lives, not just pat Christianese.

We had two Bible lessons today, but we also had tons of physical fun with the kids. We enjoyed water games on the lawn in the afternoon, ending with a full-blown water balloon fight. These kids are no different than teens in North America – they love having a good time. And it’s easy to make that happen here. They simply want to be kids, to forget about their disease, and to be treated as normal people.

The evening activity was a talent show. One gal read a poem she’d written about the death of her mother. Two stood and sang a beautiful worship song. We all sang “How Great Thou Art.” And there were lots of laughs, too, as Gene and our 22-year-old daughter Kim performed a couple of silly skits. Claudia and Tony did a mind-teasing game – ie: “Pick any number but don’t tell anyone what it is. Now add 20. Subtract 5…..” The kids really enjoyed trying to figure out this one.

Following the talent show, the hotel owners served us a typical Romanian outdoor grilled dinner – three types of meat served on each plate – chicken breast, pork, and sausages. By now it was 10 p.m. For me, this was a delightful cultural experience. A grilled dinner in Canada might consist of one piece of meat, a baked potato, and a salad of some sort. And I would never consider eating three big chunks of meat just prior to bedtime. But there are differences! And it’s critical to remember that doing things in a way unusual to us is not wrong…it’s just different.

Then we broke out the Hershey bars, marshmallows and graham crackers and taught the kids how to make s’mores. They understood quickly how to roast their marshmallows to perfection. Meanwhile, as several staff were taking care of this aspect of camp, others were in the hotel praying spontaneously with several girls whose hearts were ready and ripe for God to do a good work!

One little gal pulled Tresha into her room and told her all about her life. Sexual abuse beyond belief.  For her privacy’s sake, I won’t post her story online. Suffice it to say, she’s lucky to be alive. Scripture isn’t kidding when it speaks of Satan as the one who wants to kill, steal, and destroy. He’s doing a good job over here. But Jesus came to bring light, life, and hope. If only these kids could understand and believe this to be the truth.

Tonight one girl committed her life to following Jesus Christ, and another (a Christian) expressed her desire to overcome her backslidden ways and remain faithful to God. Wow – what a night!

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