I’m holed up in a university dormitory in Gdansk, Poland, as I write this. Am refining a parenting workshop about the five love languages, based on Gary Chapman’s book by that title.
The premise of the workshop is that God has created us with an inner “love tank” that longs to be filled. As parents, one of our key responsibilities is to fill our kids’ tanks by communicating to them in their love language – either affirming words, quality time, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. When we do so, they are reassured of our love and this impacts their emotional well-being.
God, our heavenly Father, does the same thing for those who are His children. Romans 5:5 says, “For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love” (Romans 5:5).
The Holy Spirit has been given to all who place their faith in Jesus Christ – what an amazing, ongoing way for the Father to fill His kids’ love tanks! This ought to serve as a permanent reminder of His love, enough to erase any doubt of whether or not He cares for us. How should that impact us?
Well, it ought to give us the confidence to believe that God will keep His promises to us. It should give us the freedom to share our innermost thoughts with Him, telling Him our desires and fears. It should grant us the joy of knowing we’re loved unconditionally and forever, and it should give us the courage to face the future knowing He’s with us. Add these things together, and the sum is emotional health and well-being.
If we profess to be God’s children but doubt whether or not He truly loves us, then we need to ask why those doubts are present. Is it because God has failed to fill our love tank? Or is it because we simply don’t understand Him and His ways? Chances are, it’s the latter. And that can be remedied with a prayer: “God, cleanse my heart from doubt so Your love may dwell there unhindered. I invite You to fill my love tank to overflowing!”