The Art of Being a Good Friend
Good friends not only support and encourage one another. They also care enough to confront. And who knows? Our words might save their life.
What characterizes good friends?
I recall sitting at our kitchen table one evening, having coffee with my husband and one of our church-going friends. Our conversation was anything but easy.
That friend had recently left his wife and daughters saying he was having a midife crisis of sorts. “I need some space and time to sort things out,” he’d said to his wife and to our church leadership. Trouble was, he didn’t know that we’d learned he was having an extra-marital affair.
That evening we confronted our friend about his infidelity. It was one of the most difficult things we’ve ever done, but we cared enough about him and his family to speak up in hopes he’d come to his senses. I wish I could say he listened and heeded our words. Unfortunately, he chose to pursue his own path.
Good friends care enough to confront
Hebrews 3:12-13 says,
12Be careful then, dear brothers and sisters. Make sure that your own hearts are not evil and unbelieving, turning you away from the living God. 13You must warn each other every day, while it is still ‘today,’ so that none of you will be deceived by sin and hardened against God.
Sin is deceitful, and Satan dupes Christ’s followers more times than we wish to know. We need to look out not only for our own spiritual well-being, but also for that of others.
When we see our friends floundering or flirting with sin, let’s care enough to lovingly confront. They might feel angry at us. They might not want to speak with us for awhile. We’re not responsible for how they react, but we are responsible to love them enough to speak up.
Who knows? Our words might save their life.
Know you are loved,
Grace